To be a Man

It’s a normal Sunday in our household and as I wake I’m already dreading the day! Sunday’s for me are go, go, go, without a minute to sit and have a cup of coffee. My husband, on the other hand, loves Sunday’s. Here’s how our days differ…

ME – Wake up and after the kids are sorted, which normally just means tea and biscuits on a Sunday, the first chore is taking my dog (Kofi) to training. So I’ll cut up his treats, get his water bottle filled and get other necessary equipment (poop bags)! Then while I’m waiting for hubby to wake (we both take Kofi training) I’ll unload the dishwasher and have a quick sweep around, my dog sheds – a lot!

HUBBY – Gets out of bed, quick shower, gets ready, put the dogs lead on and we’re out the door.

ME – After training comes the weekly shop. I will walk around the supermarket carefully planning out the weeks meals and adding these items to the shopping trolley, also calculating the expense.

HUBBYWill randomly add to the trolley – sweets, cakes, crisps, coke, alcohol and any other treats that look appetising.

We both put away the shopping when arriving home, even the kids help.

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ME – By this time everyone is starving so I will make a cup of coffee for myself and tea for hubby. I don’t get to sit and drink it though, I drink it as I prepare lunch for all.

HUBBYSits on sofa, recliner out and enjoys a hot cup of tea followed by some lunch and propabaly another cup of tea.

ME – After lunch, dishes put away, it’s time for the daily dog groom. Having a German Shepherd requires a lot of brushing and cleaning, but I wouldn’t be without him. Then it’s time to vacuum and mop the floors.

HUBBYContinues to sit on the sofa watching TV.

ME – Kids are at school tomorrow so it’s ironing time, hate ironing! I do get to watch TV while I’m doing this though so that’s a benefit. I’ll probably also have another cup of coffee whilst I iron as the first one got cold, as will this one. Then the clothes needs to be put away and under garments need to be sorted, matched up and also put away. The never ending task of laundry!

All this time there has been no movement from hubby, except to ask one of kids to pass the iPad so he can check his Facebook and surf the net!

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ME – Homework time. Saturday’s are normally busy so the kids will do homework during the week and finish of on Sunday’s. I typically spend about an hour and half with my little one helping him. When I get a few minutes to escape, I will go to the kitchen and prep whatever joint we are having for our Sunday roast, and put it in the oven.

I’m sure I heard a few snores from hubby – he’ll deny it of course! But sitting for that long on the sofa, one is sure to doze off. Oh and the blanket has appeared.

ME – Need another coffee to keep me going while I help kids pack school bags. Swimming kits, PE kits, can’t find this, need more pens – OMG can’t wait till they can do this themselves! But having all boys that’ll probably be never!

Definitely hear hubby snoring now. I might record it as proof…

ME – About an hour before dinner. Need to prepare the potatoes and veg. Might have a cheeky drink in the process, coffee isn’t hitting the spot anymore. Make the dogs food (yes he’s spoilt, gets home cooked meals!) All ready, serve and eat dinner. Finally, I get to sit down! Movie time with the family…

HUBBYBottle of beer with dinner, maybe two. Maybe a Jack Daniels, it’s Sunday!

ME – Nearly there, Sunday’s nearly over. Tidy up after dinner, feed dog, bath time for the little one, school sandwiches made, and … I’m done! Kids are in bed, everyone is ready to start the new week and I can finally sit down and drink a cup of coffee, while it is still hot. Wow – feet are killing me! Time to relax – on the recliner.

HUBBYYawning “It’s been a long day… I’m tied, shall we go to bed”

ME – !!!!!!

18 thoughts on “To be a Man

  1. zahthinks says:

    I couldn’t stop laughing while reading it. This is exactly how my sundays go as well just I don’t have kids yet. But it’s my hubby, mom in law, dad in law, sis in law. Phew!! And it’s always husbands who are soo tired. 😂

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  2. deimile says:

    Did you just write about my husband? Does he sneak out and stay at your house on Sundays?! All jokes aside, we used to argue about this way more, still do… My advice to you, find the time for yourself too, find the time to relax too, or leave the house altogether! “Kids and the house are all yours for the day honey!” We also tried to establish some chores that are solely his, that helps sometimes…

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    • Baffledmum says:

      Lol! It’s really funny because he read this and the following weekend was much better. I need to write & moan about him more! 😆 But yes, defiantly need more me time! X

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  3. Todd says:

    As I read this I wonder how much of this particular “masculine trait” is actually a part of being male and how much is part of the stories we tell ourselves and each other.

    In our home, we tend to share the effort based on what we like doing that the other doesn’t. I do the meal planning, cooking, and shopping because Sage doesn’t like it as much. She always cleans the cat’s litter box because I don’t like it at all. She also cleans the kitchen because that’s how we divided up the cooking work. If we ever feel there’s an imbalance, we sit down and talk about it and try to either find the misunderstanding. For example, if she’s working more than usual on her teaching then maybe sometimes I find myself cleaning the kitchen a little more – or sometimes I am away on business so she picks up the slack – and having a son who is happy to help with all our tasks helps a great deal as well. When it comes to household chores we tend to look upon it as shared work we all must do in order to keep the house the way we want it to be kept. Nothing is strictly a man’s job or a woman’s – and in fact many of the stereotypically women’s jobs are things my son and I don’t mind doing so we do those.

    Of course this doesn’t cover anything. There are also tasks that nobody likes doing. But we’ve figured out how to to address those. We do it through friendly competition. I talked about it here, actually: https://serendipityencouraged.wordpress.com/2017/08/21/household-chores-and-frugality-made-fun/

    So in the end, I don’t think men are naturally lazy. However, if someone is given the opportunity and knows the expectations are that they’ll be lazy, why would they do otherwise? Why not let someone else do the hard work? 😉

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