Why do we always want the things we know, or are told, are bad for us?
Is it just human nature to be attracted to the bad?
Or is it that the bad things are generally better than the good?
Confused? So am I…
For instance let’s take a look at chocolate! We all know it’s full of calories and therefore terrible for the stomach, hips and thighs. But does that make us crave it even more? We grew up being told that if we behave we could have a treat. Chocolate was a ‘treat’ so is that how it has stuck in our minds. If we feel down and need a pick me up, we instantly think to treat ourselves. So we reach for a treat!
It’s been imprinted in our brains. Yes, I’ve been good today, I deserve a treat! Chocolate!
Had we grown up being told – “If you’re good you can have some cucumber“, would we now turn to cucumber when we want a treat? Interesting concept, 🤔
Lets move on and try something else bad for us…
Alcohol! This time lets imagine our first drink. It’s a family party and everybody is having loads of fun when suddenly mum or dad say “have a drink if you want, a little ones ok.” (Obviously you’re nearly at the legal age anyway) Now it’s imprinted on our impressionable young minds that party = drinking alcohol when you’re having fun!
If we had been told “have some juice, it’s a party” would we all being going out on nights out and ordering juice? 🤔
OK, maybe it’s not as simple as that! In fact I know it’s not. But you can see how society and upbringing may leave a lasting effect on us.
(By the way these cocktails look like they could quench my thirst!)
Now the big one! Something I’ve often wondered as it’s mentioned so many times in movies, magazines and real life…
Why are girls attracted to bad boys and vice versa?
If you know that a boy is bad, has probably cheated on past girlfriends, thinks himself as a player, maybe a bit of a thief and gets into trouble with the law, why would you waste your time on him??? 🤔🙄
This one definitely perplexes me! I wouldn’t have looked twice at a bad boy but I know friends who did. And the one attraction was their reputation. I don’t get it! Is it the hope that your love will win this person over? Are you going to be the one who will turn this person’s life around and finally get them to settle down?
Bit far-fetched I know, sounds like a movie. Maybe we watch too many movies and it’s starting to mix with real life in our brains?
Or is it our rebellious streak trying to break out, you want to look cooler so want into this crowd? But again, why??? Why is being/acting bad, good!x
From the research I’ve done, most people state it’s a confidence thing. That these bad boys (or bad girls) are so full of themselves that they gleam confidence. And this sounds like it could be right.
Is this the main contributing factor – Confidence = Ego = Self-worth = bad boy (girl)?
So why aren’t good girls and good boys oozing with confidence? I really can’t answer this one. In my mind they are the better people so should have more confidence, but if they did – would their personalities then change?
Would they then become egotistic and be converted to the dark side?
I’ve probably confused you guys by letting you into my head and rambling on! But I’d love to know what you think on the matter…
Why are girls attracted to bad boys (and vise versa)?
Do you go for bad boys (girls)? … If yes, WHY???
Waiting to hear your thoughts because as usual…. I’m BAFFLED! (there’s my name again) 😁