Bullies are everywhere!
They reside on the school playground, in the work place, in the car parks even in our homes. There’s honestly no place to hide from them.
A bully will put you down, direct rude remarks in your direction, hit you and make your life a living hell!
So how do you deal with a bully?
In some instances, bullies can be reported and dealt with. Such as in school or in a workplace; reports can be made, investigated and handled. In other circumstances, bullies can be avoided. If you stay out of their way, you wont get the abuse.
But what do you do when the bully is inside your head?
Yes, that’s where this post is heading…
The bully that is you, the bully that is bullying yourself, the bully that you can’t report and the bully that you can’t escape!
This post was inspired by my youngest son. During a conversation with him the other day, he told me he was useless!
Obviously this shocked me as he was so serious, not his normal jokey self. I told him “Your not useless“, to which he replied “yes I am, I can’t do anything!”
He was talking about school work as he is really struggling at the moment. The conversation went on with me explaining to him that his teacher was really impressed as he was trying so hard to improve academically. Also, just because he isn’t good at maths, doesn’t mean he hasn’t got other talents. I told him he was a computer whiz and his imagination was out of this world! Furthermore, I told him, he could accomplish anything if he truly wanted to…
My words worked and he left happier in himself… He went off to fight a battle with his toy soldiers in his bedroom – Told you he’s imaginative!
But it made me think about that bully that lays dormant in our heads, always ready and willing to put us down when we are at our weakest.
How do we tackle this bully?
How do we stay positive when this little devil is on alert and can easily turn our positivity into negativity?
It’s so easy to listen to that bully when we don’t have another person to tell us we are worth it. However, we are not always surrounded by good friends and loved ones to give us that lift, that push back into our positive, happy place.
How do WE deal with the bully OURSELVES?
Push that bully out of your head! Hit them hard with so much positive talk, positive quotes, positive thoughts, positive aspirations that the bully finds it hard to breathe and leaves its place in your head!
And the positivity doesn’t stop there. You must ensure that it never comes back. Fill that empty space from which the bully left, with self-love.
Look yourself in the mirror, smile and soak in the good energy. Tell yourself you are worth it and you are good enough.
To tackle any bully we must first tackle ourselves. If we can’t put ourselves down, then what hope does any bully have? NONE!
I understand this is an ongoing battle… but it is a battle we all fight.
Please leave me a comment and share any other tips you have on promoting self-love.
Be kind to yourselves…