My life is a mess

Support does not mean doing everything for a loved one. Support is being by that person’s side and helping them to get back on their feet. Support is showing somebody how to cope, showing them they are capable of dealing with issues, showing them they can do whatever they put their mind to.

So support people without taking over their life…

Suki… X!

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  1. blindzanygirl says:

    Oh Suki. Never a truer word. This is EXACTLY right. Looking at the title to your post, I hope you are ok. Bless you. You are precious xxxx

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Yes, I’m fine thank you… Sometimes I just write random thoughts that pop into my mind… I appreciate your concern though… Hope you are well… ❤

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      1. blindzanygirl says:

        Phew! So glad you are okay. I know what you mean though about just writing random thoughts that pop into your head. I do the same. Glad you’re fine ❤️❤️❤️

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  2. CJ Porter says:

    Totally agree Suki! True support means being there for the person and giving them space also.
    I hope you are getting the support you deserve. Much love and good wishes to you 🙂

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Thank you so much… ❤

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  3. “Support people without taking over their lives”. I hope that becomes a proverb some day.

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      That would be good! 👍❤

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  4. orkidedatter says:

    so true and often there are friends who remain who are by your side and are there for you anyway …❤️
    🦋wish you a lovely day🦋

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Thank you… Wishing you a great day too… ❤

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  5. blindzanygirl says:

    Sadly i recently had someonebtry to take over my life recently by,oushing themselves onto me and refusing to go away when I said I was fine, and needed them just to leave me. That intensified their encroaching upon me,cwhich I had to deal with andbthey took it badly and made out that I was being cruel to them and making them feel suicidal and bad. I can’t dealcwith people like that. It is so hard. So what you wrote found a home with me Suki. Much love to you ❤️❤️❤️

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      I think it’s an automatic response with some people, to try to fix everything…. But sometimes we need to fix ourselves… Thank you for sharing your experience with me ❤

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      1. blindzanygirl says:

        You are welcome Suki. You are so right ❤️

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    2. Are they still meddling in your life, Blindzanygirl?

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      1. blindzanygirl says:

        Not sure. It’s complicated.

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  6. So true dear ❤ ❤ ❤

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Thank you for stopping by… ❤️

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      1. I’m glad I’ve met beautiful people like you. 🙂

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  7. Ramyani Bhattacharya says:

    Exactly. Being by a person is more important to try to solve their problem. 😊

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Thank you, I’m glad you agree… ❤️

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      1. You post prompted me to do a head count. It took eight people to get me off the streets and back on track when I was rendered homeless — largely as a consequence of the deepest, most prolonged depression of my life. Two brothers, two best friends, a psychiatrist, a therapist, and a kind couple who had an apartment to lease to someone whose credit was ruined.

        The scary thing is, I’ve known quite a few homeless people and I’ve never seen it really done with many fewer people than that. People pile up on the street because they don’t have enough good people in their lives who can help them.

        But you know what? I’d still be on the streets today if my friends had been misguided enough to do too much to help me. They did just enough, I could take it from there. Had they done too much, I would not have become emotionally invested in my own recovery.

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      2. Baffledmum says:

        Well done Paul! I didn’t know your back story but thank you for sharing it with me… I’m so glad you managed to turn your life around and you have people who support you… ❤

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      3. Suki, I’m living proof that no matter how dark today is, we have no proof tomorrow will be just as dark. My ten years of profound depression have been followed by the happiest 15 years of my life. Who could have predicted that?

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      4. Baffledmum says:

        Well said! You need to spread your message to others, share your inspirations… ❤

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      5. Bless you for the encouragement!

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  8. AmyRose🌹 says:

    Agreed in spades. Only you can change. Only you can do what what must be done in order to get through a crisis. Support is essential for getting off your chest what is bothering you. I have a beloved sister who at times is just about silent as the words just pour from my mouth as we talk on the phone. When my world falls apart, to have a support someone or system enables the healing process to unfurl. Support is cherished and when used properly vitally important to the healing process. Great post, Suki!! Thank you! 💖

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Thank you Amy for a lovely comment and for sharing your experiences with me… ❤️💕

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      1. AmyRose🌹 says:

        You are most welcome! 🤗

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  9. cannardblogs says:

    True true only when it comes to helping people with their problems I put their life above my own which I need to get used to not doing otherwise my like will become a mess😣

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      And we definitely don’t want that to happen… ❤

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      1. cannardblogs says:

        Indeed I’m just too nice and I give people move attention than they should get and make their problems my own

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      2. Baffledmum says:

        That just shows what a awesome person you are 😊

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      3. cannardblogs says:

        Aha thank you very much, I don’t think I’m that awesome but I’ll take the compliment 😚

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      4. Baffledmum says:

        You’re modest too then! 😆

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  10. Too often people jump in and don’t listen first. It’s always best to find out what a person needs or wants first. This is such a great post.

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      That’s exactly my point… ❤

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  11. I hope all is well. So very true what you true, thank you for such wise advice ❤️

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Thank you for stopping by… ❤

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      1. jesbinjohn says:

        Are you monetizing your blog?

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  12. jesbinjohn says:

    💕💕💕💖💖💖

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Thank you for stopping by…

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  13. mothertherealist says:

    Thank you! So true!

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  14. emaarem says:

    I wish more people understood this! ❤

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      I share your wish… ❤

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  15. You’re an Amazing writer dear..
    I like almost all your posts.. 😌👌

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