Putting myself second

Being in love doesn’t mean you have to put your life on hold. Keep your independence and hold on tight to the things that matter to you, that make you who you are.

There may come a time when you are alone so make sure you never lose yourself…

Suki… X!

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  1. blindzanygirl says:

    These are GREAT words Suki. They are very very true, and when we are younger we don’t always realuse this. I didn’t anyway. But then I did realise, and created my own things, lively post to read first thing today Suki xx

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    1. I agree with you, Girl! When I was young I did not realize the full and key importance of being true to yourself. That’s an excellent point to raise! I had heard the words, but I was clueless how important they were.

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      1. blindzanygirl says:

        😊

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    2. Baffledmum says:

      I think a lot of us fall into this trap… I’m glad you found your own things to focus on… β€πŸ’•

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  2. Ramyani Bhattacharya says:

    Amazing words. I agree with you completely. ☺️

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      I’m glad β€πŸ’•

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  3. Simon says:

    I think this is something easily done… Put yourself first now πŸ™‚

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      That’s the hard bit… Even more difficult after having children but I shall try… ❀

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      1. Simon says:

        I think you should. Your deserve it ❀️

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  4. “Building my whole life around you”.

    That’s it right there, in my insufferable opinion. We all need to sacrifice a bit now and then for each other, and especially for those we love the most. But gods! What a mistake it is to build our lives around others.

    I think girls and women are especially vulnerable to making that mistake. Friends have told me over and over that’s exactly what they did. Boys and men — to some extent — are systematically encouraged to be themselves. But girls and women are just as systematically taught and pressured to betray themselves.

    I believe most women to one degree or another feel a desire to nurture and support the people they love. That’s such a beautiful thing when expressed freely and without compulsion. But wow! Does it turn ugly when people are pressured into it.

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Nicely said Paul … 😊

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  5. Thank you for this powerful message! πŸ™ŒπŸ»

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Thank you for reading it ❀

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  6. orkidedatter says:

    Wise word, I love themπŸ¦‹

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      I’m glad β€πŸ’•

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  7. Sohair says:

    So important reminder..thanks for sharing !

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Thank you for visiting πŸ™

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  8. Ashleyhouck says:

    Such truth. I have fallen into losing myself because of my many relationships in my life. Being a mother, wife, sister, daughter. I am constantly doing for others and lost myself along the way. That’s why I dedicated this year to finding myself. It’s been terrific!

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      I’m so happy for you… I hope your journey continues to get better and better… ❀

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      1. Ashleyhouck says:

        Me too thank you so much! 😊

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  9. huguetta says:

    Something we learn with time and after being disappointed and sometimes exhausted but we do learn eventually πŸ™‚
    Thank you Suki, have a great day ❀

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Thank you for adding your insight to this message, I agree… ❀

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      1. huguetta says:

        My pleasure always ❀️

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  10. Hi, thanks for this truthful share. I second your thoughts completely. Being in love doesn’t always mean losing your individuality. Being true to yourself is absolutely essential too.

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Yes, exactly… Thank you for sharing this… πŸ™

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    2. My own experience has been that I am able to judge the kind and quality of love someone has for me by whether or not they want me to be true to myself and then go on to support and encourage me in that. Some folks who love, don’t love that way. Other folks do.

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      1. tsepotheview says:

        Liked the comment. Some people out there can’t love because they don’t know what love is so if ever you come across such folk just make sure you don’t judge but try to teach how to love then if ever things don’t go as planned then save yourself and just let go as that might not be meant for you.

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  11. Absolutely. Well said…ones self identity shouldn’t be lost because they’re in an exclusive romantic relationship.

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      My point exactly… Thank you 😊

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  12. francisashis says:

    Thanks for the lovely update.

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  13. FitYogiCee says:

    This post is right on time! Thank you for sharing.

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Thank you for visiting 😊

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  14. Such true words!!❀️

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Thank you 😊❀

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  15. Lucia says:

    Well said, beautifully written.

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      I’m glad you liked it… Thank you for stopping by ❀

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  16. tsepotheview says:

    Absolutely right never ever put yourself second or change who you are for the sake of love because then that will not be love as you will not be happy at all and when you not happy you can’t love all you can do is to pretend.

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Very well said, thank you for your input… ❀

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  17. W A E L says:

    Great message! πŸ‘β€οΈ

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  18. mothertherealist says:

    How timely! I was just lamenting this idea to a friend today!

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    1. Baffledmum says:

      Great minds think alike… πŸ˜‰

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